I read somewhere, sometime ago...that an "emotional" affair is more dangerous than "physical" affair. When it's physical, it will just involve adrenalins and driven by lust...but when it's "emotional", it involves the heart and driven by feelings...feelings of love.
I recently got to know of someone, in the verge of losing his mind...he is in a dilemma between his family and his lover. At one glance, most people will see it as an easy choice...a beautiful wife and kids, happy home...what could go wrong?!! Why must you be so cruel?
It is always easy for people to judge. It is always easy for people to give sound advice. It is always easy to tell people "do the right thing".
The truth is, it is never easy. We are never in their shoes. Well, perhaps we would like to "imagine" or "put" ourselves in their situation. But then again, the truth is, we are never "there"...nor are we "them".
But this guy I know, has a good heart. It is sad that he is in this situation. He is near to a breaking point as it seems that there is no way out for him. I am not angry with him. Nor am I pissed. I just feel sad and pity that it has reached to this stage. He claims to be in love, he claims that there is no more love for the wife. Ahh...men!
Ever wiling to give up everything to pursue the 'love' of their life. But when reality checks in, they are in a dilemma. Giving up everything? If it is as easy as it sounds, he would've done it long time ago and moved on.
But the fact that he is depressed now proves that it is not as easy. Yes, love is everything. Love is your heart and soul. But to give up everything, your career, your house, your car, your money...it is not an act of 'sacrifice', it is an act to "justify" the wrongs.
But come on, we are in the real world.
What? Start over again? It will be cool for the first 6 months...of 12 months, at least, thereafter...reality sets in. Bills, rental, new job, new friends....now, that's the real world.
When the affair involves the heart, the brain is not working. Emotions run high, the wrongs feels right and the whole world just doesn't exist anymore. There is just two of them. Real Love. Erm, isn't that the same 'rush', same feelings felt the day you say "I do"?
The world is changing. Women became more independent. Men and women work together. Travel on business trips together. Stress at work. Temptations. Seductions. Everywhere.
What kind of advice do I have for him? Well, he just have to sort out this mess himself. No one can help him but himself. I can only listen, and listen. Well, occasionally, share my thoughts. Just sharing...
Marriage? Weddings?? GOSH!!!!!!!
I recently got to know of someone, in the verge of losing his mind...he is in a dilemma between his family and his lover. At one glance, most people will see it as an easy choice...a beautiful wife and kids, happy home...what could go wrong?!! Why must you be so cruel?
It is always easy for people to judge. It is always easy for people to give sound advice. It is always easy to tell people "do the right thing".
The truth is, it is never easy. We are never in their shoes. Well, perhaps we would like to "imagine" or "put" ourselves in their situation. But then again, the truth is, we are never "there"...nor are we "them".
But this guy I know, has a good heart. It is sad that he is in this situation. He is near to a breaking point as it seems that there is no way out for him. I am not angry with him. Nor am I pissed. I just feel sad and pity that it has reached to this stage. He claims to be in love, he claims that there is no more love for the wife. Ahh...men!
Ever wiling to give up everything to pursue the 'love' of their life. But when reality checks in, they are in a dilemma. Giving up everything? If it is as easy as it sounds, he would've done it long time ago and moved on.
But the fact that he is depressed now proves that it is not as easy. Yes, love is everything. Love is your heart and soul. But to give up everything, your career, your house, your car, your money...it is not an act of 'sacrifice', it is an act to "justify" the wrongs.
But come on, we are in the real world.
What? Start over again? It will be cool for the first 6 months...of 12 months, at least, thereafter...reality sets in. Bills, rental, new job, new friends....now, that's the real world.
When the affair involves the heart, the brain is not working. Emotions run high, the wrongs feels right and the whole world just doesn't exist anymore. There is just two of them. Real Love. Erm, isn't that the same 'rush', same feelings felt the day you say "I do"?
The world is changing. Women became more independent. Men and women work together. Travel on business trips together. Stress at work. Temptations. Seductions. Everywhere.
What kind of advice do I have for him? Well, he just have to sort out this mess himself. No one can help him but himself. I can only listen, and listen. Well, occasionally, share my thoughts. Just sharing...
Marriage? Weddings?? GOSH!!!!!!!
1 comment:
Very well said. :) *speechless*
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